Wait...people liked reading my super long philosophical debate posts? Weird! The last time I did something like that, the response was mediocre at best. Maybe it's time for me to start a new series...
But first! I have about twelve, half-written posts that I really should get out of the way. So today, let's have Part 2, of my post entitled Gays in Ancient Greece.
In Ancient Greece, they had a double standard when it came to being gay. It was considered good to have a gay lover, but it was considered bad to be a gay lover. ...This is easier to explain in Greek, because they had different words for "gay lover" and "gay lover": erastes and eromenos.
There's a modern double standard, which is kind of similar. A guy who has lots of girlfriends is often praised as being manly or good. A girl who does the same thing (i.e. has lots of boyfriends) is looked down upon as being bad and slutty.
So in the ancient days, a guy who had lots of boyfriends was considered to be manly and dominating. On the other hand, a guy who was the boyfriend to other men was considered to be weak and submissive. Teenagers often made fun of each other about this, by calling the submissive partners "girls". (Male teenagers today still use that as a nickname to make fun of each other.)
The majority of information we have on ancient homosexuality deals with boys and men. We know about the sexual behaviors of adult women, but we know almost nothing about what young girls and teenagers did. They had a few publicly-funded ceremonies for girls, which dealt with topics like puberty and sexuality. But it was illegal for men to attend these, with the heaviest punishment being banishment. So...no one really wrote about them, beyond the fact that they existed.