Friday, March 18, 2011

Honesty

So, I couldn't help but notice that people disagree over the concept of honesty.  Some people think honesty is the best policy, and other people are filthy liars who should never be trusted.

Er, other people think that lying is a good thing to do, in certain situations (i.e. whenever it will get them out of trouble).

So what do you readers think?  Who's right--the people who say you should tell the truth 100% of the time, or the people who say you shouldn't tell the truth all the time?

Personally, I think you should never tell lies. People tell me this is an unrealistic mindset.  I would believe them, only I don't, because they're liars. Is it really that unrealistic to tell the truth constantly?

16 comments:

dr.david-dan said...

I think that you need to tell the truth all the times but sometimes you need to tell lies. One day I was at school and my colleague, Christina asked me what I think about her new sunglasses. Well, to be honest it looks horrible wtih them but I say: ''Cool! I love your look! You look so beautiful with them!'' And then my other colleague, Andrea says: ''What, you think this is cool??! Christina you look horrible. Better not wear them.'' And then Christina got angry on me and.... well now we are friends again. So is good to tell the truth 100% but sometimes you need to lie.

dr.david-dan said...

One day when i was in Grade 5, i got a 4 at a test. When I arrive at home I see my mother and she ask me how was the day at school. I was like: ''To tell her or not to tell her. But if I don't tell her she will punish me... oh boy you don't want to know what she does when she founds that I lie her.'' So I tell her the truth and she punish me like this: ,,No computer and TV for a month'' Ok, it was better then the other way.... the lie! Bye. And say the truth everyday but be careful not to upset somebody with your truth!

Anonymous said...

I think telling the truth is important, but you shouldn't be harsh about what you say. Brutal honesty can hurt just as much as lies!

Cat said...

You have to be careful with the truth. It's usually the best idea, but it's OK to lie if you're part of secret government military operation and you don't know if someone is an enemy spy (yes, that's lying). The only normal situation I can think of when lying is OK would be when throwing a surprise party for someone and they might figure it out. When the truth might hurt, either redirect the focus, or be gentle.

Anonymous said...

I'm fully behind telling the truth 100% of the time, but I'll admit that this sort of question has given me trouble, trying to sort right from wrong. The best answer that I can see, based on what the Bible says about the subject, is that any lie is a sin and not acceptable, but when telling the truth, be careful. Sometines stark facts are all right to voice, but usually (and especially when someone asks your opininon of something) say them gently, in a helpful way. Also, if you can, sometimes the best idea is to not actually answer the direct question and steer the conversation in a different direction. This would be good for when you're trying to keep a secret like a surprise pary, as Cat said, or if someone asks you what you think of their outfit and you think it looks awful. In the second situation, you could try and find something positive about it and mention that instead.

--J.F.

Britnie said...

I agree with the premise that honesty works in most situations, but not all. To use an example of an extreme measure, during Nazi Germany, Jews were either forced from the country, or sent to a concentration camp. The German citizens who disagreed with this, agreed to help the Jewish people by hiding them wherever they could find a safe place. So, when the Gestapo would come to a German citizen residence and demand to know if they knew where any Jews were hiding, should they have told the truth? If they did, their Jewish friends probably would have died. This, of course, is an extreme example, but I think lying is ok if you are protecting an innocent life. I personally would have committed a sin (lying) to prevent another sin (murder)of being committed, but that's just my two cents.

Anonymous said...

If you lie to protect some one, is it really a lie? If you are not hurting anyone? A lie to keep peace?

Anonymous said...

When i was younger i used to lie to my parents to try to get out of stuff.eventually they caught on to me one day an in the end i ended up getting in trouble an after a while i realized that not only would my punishment hurt but the lies had also hurt the relationship with my parents.So i think its better to be honest then to lie because not only will it hurt others it hurts you to.....i guess some people call that karma...

Anonymous said...

I think lying's ok to protect people's feelings. I mean, if a friend asks me if I like their new jeans - I may not - but if my friend likes them that's all that matters, I'm not going to say they look bad. But I don't think it's right to lie about serious things like feelings or relationships ect.

dr.david-dan said...

hmmm.... It's a lot of talk about honesty but....... Just be careful when say the truth. Try to not lie everytime and it will be OK.

Airam said...

Honesty is the best policy, most of the time, like when someone wears this hideous outfit and ask you how it looks, and you say it looks great: just the white lies are fine.

Anonymous said...

Hmm, Britnie made a good point about lying to protect someone...that's a complicated issue. I have no idea what would be the right thing in that situation. The example of Nazi Germany reminds me of the book "The Hiding Place" by Corrie ten Boom; she was a Christian lady, but she definitely lied sometines, to protect the Jewish people that she and her family were hiding in their house. But, nowhere in the Bible does it say lying is acceptable, so I'm still thinking the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth is the right thing, especially since "not bearing false witness" is one of the Ten Commandments.

-- J.F.

Britnie said...

I completely agree with you J.F.; it's a complicated issue with no right answer. In my example, as well as yours, I personally would have lied because it would have only hurt me (spirtually at least); if I told the truth, then that hurts someone else (in the physical sense). I know it's kind of a convoluted premise, but I would commit a sin that harms myself first, whether physical or spirtual, before I would let someone else get hurt. For me, lying is wrong, no matter the reason, but I would be willing to take the methaphorical bullet for innocent life.

Anonymous said...

lying most of the time is important, but in situations like say..your little sister is dying with cancer in the hospital, you wouldnt tell her that.

Kira said...

I tell the truth most of the time. If I do lie, it is a very little lie that won't affect anyone. Also, I tell some white lies, but every kid is kind of told to do that when they answer the phone.

Anonymous said...

That's an interesting line of reasoning, Britnie, and I can easily see where you're coming from on that. The only thought that came to me, reading your post, was that when you sin, it's not just a matter of how it affects you or even others. You sin against God as well, treating him badly by disobeying his commands. It grieves Him when people do wrong.

That said, I still don't have any crystal clear answers when it comes to this subject. :(

--J.F.